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Beware the Dream Stealers

Beware the Dream Stealers                                         

By Greg Kozera– 

My wife had a dream to be a nurse since she was a little girl. She worked as a candy striper in the local hospital when she was 14 and trained to be a certified nursing assistant in high school. Her plan was to go to nursing school after high school until her advisor told her she was “too stupid” to go to nursing school. This high school advisor almost stole my wife’s childhood dream to become a nurse.

Lynnda had a choice to make. She could believe the advisor and give up on her dream or believe in herself. She joined the Navy and became a corpsman (medic). When she finished her military tour, she was accepted into nursing school and graduated as an LPN. After working as an LPN for several years she decided to go to college to get her RN degree. Lynnda was working full time. We had all three of our children at home and Lynnda’s handicapped mother was living with us at the time. She could only go to school part time. It took a few years but despite all the challenges she graduated as a Registered Nurse. We are proud of her. She worked for years full time and is still living her dream working part-time as a nurse. She chose not to allow someone to steal her dream.   

Dream stealers are those people who tell you all of the reasons why you can’t achieve your dreams. They may be mean spirited like my wife’s high school advisor. They may not want you to succeed when they can’t or won’t. Dream stealers may be well meaning family or close friends who really think they are doing right by you. They may not want to see you hurt or disappointed.

I recall a team dinner for my high school soccer team and their parents. I announced that our seniors dream for that season was to go back to the State Soccer Tournament and win the Boys State Championship. We were at the State Tournament the previous season and fell short. All the boys were excited and cheering. I was shocked to see the look on the parents’ faces was one of sheer terror. Some shook their heads. They were afraid the boys would fail and be disappointed. Maybe the parents had experienced failure and disappointment in their own lives and wanted to protect their sons. The boys weren’t afraid to dream high. They didn’t allow their parents or anyone else steal their dream. The boys went on to win the State Championship.

As we start a new year you may have dreams of your own. The higher you aim the more likely you will encounter a dream stealer. Maybe your goal is to lose weight. You may have someone telling you all of the reasons why you won’t lose any weight. Maybe they are telling you that to protect their own ego if you succeed and they don’t. Only you can decide how important your dream is. Only you can decide who you will believe. Remember who you spend time with is who you become. Do you spend time with people who are negative and bring you down or positive people who will encourage you and help you achieve your dreams?

Shale Crescent USA has challenging goals to bring high wage jobs and economic prosperity to the Region. In 2017 at the World Petrochemical Conference (WPC) we were laughed at when we talked about bringing manufacturing and petrochemical jobs back to this region. We were told our region didn’t know what we were doing when it comes to petrochemicals. “Just send your natural gas and natural gas liquids to the Gulf Coast where we know what to do with them.” It was demoralizing but we have a strong team and support each other. We didn’t let the negative of the people on the Gulf keep us from going after our dreams. We came back to WPC in 2018 and 2019. People and companies are coming to “The Crescent”. We still have our dreams and are in the process of seeing them come true.

What about you? Do you have dreams? Have you set some high dreams? How important are they to you? Do you believe you can achieve them? How bad do you want it? Are you willing to work for it? Who do you spend the most time with, people who are positive and uplifting or people who are negative and depressing? You get to choose who you spend the most time with? You get to decide if you will listen to and believe the dream stealers.

Walt Disney said, “If you can dream it you can do it.” Disney World was one of his dreams. His dream was so powerful it out lived him. I challenge you to dream a little higher this year than you did last year. I encourage you to spend time with positive people who will uplift and encourage you. I believe all things are possible if we believe, do the work and persevere. My wife, my high school soccer team and Shale Crescent USA are three examples I am associated with that overcame the dream stealers to have success. Our Valley and our Region can once again have high wage jobs, a high standard of living and a clean environment. All is possible. We can never allow the dream stealers to destroy our dreams.

You can have your dreams too. I believe in you! Go for it in 2020.

Thoughts to ponder.

© 2020 Shale Crescent USA

Greg Kozera, gkozera@shalecrescentusa.com is the Director of Marketing and Sales for Shale Crescent USA. He is a professional engineer with a Masters in Environmental Engineering who has over 40 years’ experience in the energy industry. Greg is a leadership expert and the author of four books and numerous published articles.